Monday, March 1, 2010

How do I cope with "Sibling Rivalry"? 25 February 2010

Thursday evening.
I was totally out of my wit on seeing EnHui scuffled over the puzzle, "small yi" bought from Bangkok,  a lovely piece of puzzle with a love message. I am so ashamed of myself for getting worked-up over it and let negative thoughts took over.

I, as a parent, should help my children regulate their emotion by working with them and be a role-model. If I can't control my anger and merely vent, I am not regulating my emotion in a positive way.

I have failed to see the world through my children's eyes. The things that caused them pain often are different from the things that caused me pain. I don't want to be treated differently or judged when I expressed my emotion and I shouldn't have done so to my little children. A child should be treated as an individual and respect.

EnHui are not yet able to settle every conflict in words and are in the process of learning it. EnHui love each other very much. They protect each other when dad plays "Minotaur" and chase them. Many times, Hui says to En, " I LOVE you". En replies lovingly with a louder voice "I LOVE YOU". This will happen to and fro a few more times before it finally ends up with hugs and kisses. Most of the time, they play along well and take care of each other.

It's okay to show negative emotion, sadness, fear or crying. I must demonstrate positive ways of coping with my own anger and negative feelings as they are watching me on how I regulate my emotions.  Let's welcome  sibling conflict' at home, as a process of learning to get along and a lesson on discussing things over.

1 comment:

Yee Ling said...

You are only a human, sis ...